Psychologists have proved that there are ways to make people like you without saying a word. These are known as nonverbal cues. So, this means that becoming likeable is easier than you think. The various traits and behaviors that manage to get people to notice you enough to like you, can be learnt. Let us look at some of these nonverbal cues.
People love talking about themselves. It makes them feel important and cared for. So, if you want someone to notice you, become a good listener. You’ll find that as you listen to them more, they’ll grow to like you as much. Listening is an art, one that can be acquired but most people that are good listeners may have inherited the trait. A good listener takes in all details of the communication without interrupting and judging them. He waits for them to finish before airing his views, that is only if it is asked out of him. Allowing someone to share their story brings them closer to you. They may begin to see as you as a potential confidant. Added to this is the fact that unloading stuff makes people light and cheerful.
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A smile is the first thing people notice in a person. When the smile is warm, eyes twinkle and the gaze is steady, this person gets people to like him/her immediately. A warm smile works like an icebreaker amongst strangers. When you meet new people while commuting, it is common to smile and start a conversation. The smile is what gets people to open up to strangers. A smile also reveals one’s friendly personality. Friendly people are instantly liked by others. When you wave and smile, it is even better as people notice you instantly without you having to speak a word.
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When you want to get someone to notice you, tapping the person lightly on the shoulder while smiling can do the trick. Subliminal touching, as it is called, is subtle touch that is barely noticed but gets you the attention. You can do this as you offer to pick up someone’s books that have fallen signaling an ‘’I’ll get it’’ or tapping someone’s shoulder, offering to hold their bag as they remove some change to pay the cab driver. A gentle tap on the shoulder works as a reassurance and is usually taken well by people. So, the next time you want to get someone to notice you, gently tap on their shoulder.
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It has been proved by psychologists that people tend to like those that hang around with them often. So, if you want to befriend someone make sure you bump into them every day so that they notice you enough. When they find you bumping into them often, they are bound to want to learn more about you. This curiosity is what gets them to seek you. People like those that seem familiar to them due to the comfort zone factor.
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This technique is also known as mirroring as it involves copying the other person’s gestures, body language, and facial expressions. When the other person finds you similar, he is bound to like you. This could also mean laughing together at jokes, shaking hands to prove a point, standing in the same pose, folding of hands, looking to the watch etc. When behavior is reciprocated, it is welcomed, as a comfort zone gets created. The reason behind it is simple, when you want someone to accept you, you need to behave in similar ways to gain an edge.
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Confident people are almost always liked instantly. The way a person carries himself speaks a lot about him. When someone approaches you with the head held high, maintaining eye contact, walking steadily, you are bound to notice him/her. Confidence exudes positivity that helps people like you faster. Confident people are quick to grasp situations and adapt themselves accordingly as they are intelligent. Another strong point that works in their favour is the fact that people idolize confident people which is why they are instantly liked.
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People that possess good dressing sense tend to attract others instantly. Smartly dressed people are generally confident and extroverts. They mingle with ease and extend their charm via nonverbal cues quite intelligently. Added to that is the dress that portrays their social class, personality, choice and taste. People that may like the style may end up liking the person as well.
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Personal hygiene, cleanliness, tidiness, proper haircut, neatly ironed clothes and smelling pleasant are a few parameters that people observe when they meet you first. Fresh breath is another important parameter that people notice immediately. So, it is important to take care of these factors if you want to be liked by people.
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It has been proved in a study that different temperatures affect impressions of people. People that are sipping a hot drink may exude warmth while people that are having something ice cold might appear cold in their feelings at that moment. So, if you want to tilt the scales in your favor, make sure to offer the person something warm to drink or eat.
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When you come across the person you intend to befriend, do nod, your head as that is bound to get you their attention. As the person greets you and begins to talk, make it a point to nod every now and then, to express your solidarity with their views. This can be a very strong tip in the initial stages of a friendship. When the other person finds you to be in sync with his/her views, you can be sure to get them to like you.
When you choose a gift with care and present it to someone you want to befriend, it opens the doors to their heart. They appreciate your kind and thoughtful gesture. Your presence gets recorded in their mind. So, do try offering a gift.
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Turning down a genuine offer of help is not common. So, look out for times when the person would require help or any kind of assistance and do the needful. People that help others are remembered fondly and instantly liked by others.
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When people notice that you share common interests with them, they are bound to know more about you signaling that they may like you. Also, being in the same class makes sure that you get more time together which would work well for you. Proximity brings closeness.
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When you want people to notice you faster, shake hands with them warmly. The brief warm touch gets registered in their mind whenever they think of you. This would make them want to meet you again to know more about you and like you.
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Warm and friendly people are liked instantly. It would do you good to keep your ego and sarcasm at bay as that is a sure shot dampener when it comes to getting people to like you.
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It is not a pleasant thing to alter your facial expressions when someone is talking to you or while you are part of a gathering. You must strive to maintain an expression that shows that you are interested in what people have to say if you want to befriend them. Moreover, maintaining a steady expression displays your maturity as well.
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When you begin to like the people you want to befriend, it sends across warm vibes as your demeanour fuels similar impressions. When people see that you like them, they are prone to like you back. The gestures, body language, eye contact, posture send positive signals to the person due to which his/her impression turns positive.
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When you are in the company of the person you want to befriend, you must take care not to overreact to jokes and gossip. Should you hear gossip, choose to remain neutral with no reactions. If they crack a joke, laugh a little and go back to being neutral. Remember, you don’t know them well. So, it is best to remain neutral in your expressions most of the time. A smile should be enough in most cases. We are sure these tips and tricks to make yourself likeable would fetch you great results. Do share them.
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