If you work, if you go out and have fun, if you love and if you live to put it simple, you will have to deal with a conflict at one point in your life. In a matter of fact, you will have to deal with plenty of conflicts in your life. But that’s not your problem or mine, it’s just how we people deal with things.
You’re working hard and going after your dream job? Well, get prepared to deal with plenty of conflicts along the way. But what is a conflict? It’s nothing more than a simple disagreement.
It all comes down to different opinions, different vision and point of view. Your job is to resolve it peacefully and stand by your ground. You don’t want to lose, but you don’t want to hurt people either.
That’s why we’ve made a collection of 15 tips and phrases that will help you to resolve a conflict.
This tip is probably most used when there’s a problem in a relationship. You don’t want to rush things, and you don’t want to make a decision based on your current emotion. When emotions run high, people say things that they don’t really mean, but they still hurt. That’s why it is better to take a break, think it through and make a decision when you’re in control of your emotions.
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This tip will help you to calm things down. Maybe the person you’re having a conflict with is controlled by emotions, rather than reason. So instead of going deeper with the argument, you should stand by their side just to cool things down.
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And another tip that is often used in relationships. Couples often forget the fact that they’re into this together. There’s no winner or a loser, you’re a team. Relationship is a team effort and you should work on your problems together, instead of against each other.
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This is probably a sleazy way to calm things down, but it works according to science. Did you know that your body releases the hormones of happiness when you receive a compliment? Just imagine you’re fighting over a stupid, silly thing and your partner says the famous line to you? You’ll definitely smile and even forget about the thing you were fighting about.
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This is as direct as you can be when it comes to ending a conflict. You don’t want to allow things to get ugly. It’s always better to be the one who will use reason when things get heated.
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If you’re a fan of Two And a Half Man, you probably remember the scene where Charlie is using this exact phrase to stay out of conflicts. However, he has his own twist that’s not quite productive. He’s just using the phrase to stop people from bothering him. Which means this only works if you really mean it.
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This can be useful in so many different situations in your life. Even if you’re having a conflict with yourself, a different point of view will help you see things out of your character.
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There’s a high probability that you’ve been in at least one fight where you didn’t know the reason why you were fighting at first place. These things happen in the heat of the moment. You simply jump from on argument to another and lose sight over the main conflict.
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There’s no point of arguing if you know you’re wrong. It’s so much better to avoid a bigger fight with this simple but effective phrase. Don’t try to change the course of the conversation, or throw around unrelated facts. Confess if you’re wrong, get to the point and move on.
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Sometimes, we simply don’t have a control over things that could lead to a conflict. If you can’t change things, what’s the point of arguing? If you deal with it together, you will get through it.
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When things get super serious and when that uncomfortable “tone of voice” appears, you should avoid conflict by any means. Because “that tone of voice” is just another reason for an argument. You should cool down before you continue with resolving the conflict without playing the blame game.
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This tip is especially useful if you have a conflict at your workplace. Let’s say you made a mistake, arguing with your boss is not the right approach. If you did something wrong, don’t take the defensive stand. Offer to fix things and try to learn a valuable lesson from the experience.
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Being direct is the best way to solve conflicts. If there’s a colleague at your workplace that doesn’t like you, why don’t you just ask what made them form that sort of opinion about you? The goal here is not about changing people or making people like. The goal here is improving yourself, and showing others that you’re a reasonable and mature person.
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This can hurt sometimes because no one wants to be wrong. But if you work in sales and you intend to be right all the time, you’re not going to be successful. We all know the customer is always right, but even if they’re wrong, this phrase will calm things down and that’s your chance to state your point.
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Being on the same team is the secret to success, both in business and relationship. Being a leader doesn’t mean being the smartest guy in the room. It’s all about emotionally stable and on top of things. It’s not about taking the fame when things go as planned, but showing support in difficult times.
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