The very mention of love warms up the hearts of people of all ages. The usual story of meeting, liking and then professing love gives many people the goosebumps just by thinking about it. But many stories end right after declaring love for each other. You must have wondered why? We bring you some solid reasons.
When one admits to loving someone, emotions run high and people that cannot manage this phase tend to run away blaming the other person. Why get into something without knowing how to direct it? The answer is simple, one gets into it without much preparation which is why things fizzle out immediately after the heightened frenzy. Thinking about the other person all the time, fighting the urge to call/text can be very distressing. Things that happen fast tend to end much faster. So, it always good to go slow, however frustrating it might seem like.
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People get into relationships to quench their curiosity. You meet, and the sparks fly. Soon you are no longer shy to make your thoughts known. Notice that it has been mentioned as thoughts and not feelings. Initially, for some people attraction occupies just the mind and not the heart. In such cases, mind speaks its thoughts quite excitedly raising the tempo. This is the make or break phase. If one learns to handle this phase well, tears in the eyes would not well. It is wiser to wait till thoughts turn into feelings before you profess your love.
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For most, it is a physical attraction that kicks in the interest. They do not wait around to find out more about the person on their mind (again it is the mind and not the heart). The urge to get into the other person’s space as quickly as possible leads to saying “I love you” quite early during interactions without knowing them well. Physical attraction can drive one crazy to the point where one loses all sense of what is. The moment the craze is satiated, people move on fast. How? Because their need is met, and they find no reason to stay. Also, because staying any longer could fetch them questions they are looking to avoid. Why? As they never loved the person in the first place!
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In many cases, it is peer pressure that leads to seeking a romantic partner. A bet or a challenge can make one go to any lengths just to satisfy the ego. Peer pressure has been known to land people in trouble. One such challenge could be setting out to woo someone just to win a bet. The thrill of winning this kind of a bet can be overwhelming, knocking the logical mind out of balance. When the bet is won, people exit just as fast as they arrived or even faster.
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Flirting is one of the ways by which you get someone to notice you. Playing along with the signs and coyness, one gets involved. If it is harmless flirting, people stop at a certain point and proceed no more. But habitual flirts are quite something else. These people proceed with the intention of luring a person. Most often the game ends soon after the other person falls in love and ends up declaring it.
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Loneliness is one of the biggest reasons why people want to get into a relationship. They find someone and fall in love with the idea of being in love rather than the person they have found themselves. When the illusion fades away, so does the feeling of love.
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People that are gloomy and sad look for relationships to make themselves happy. Little do they know that happiness is an inside job. Unless you are happy by yourself on your own, none can give you happiness. When you look for a partner to fill gaps, a void gets created. And when they find happiness missing in their relationship, they choose to leave.
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Many a time revenge can be an underlying factor to make people fall in love. Old rivalries, jealousy, or to settle scores over some humiliation can prompt people to use the phrase “I love you” as a matter of fact to win the rivals affection. When the job is done, people run.
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People that have been living in stress and tension due to frictions between parents and siblings at home, tend to hold volatile thoughts. They seek a relationship to escape from the hell that they are in. But once these people enter the relationship, the reality that they have to actually put in a lot of effort to make a relationship work dawns upon them and they flee the scene.
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There are times when admiring someone is mistaken as loving them. Admiration leads people into believing that they are in love and the wooing begins. Once the declaration happens and the two people get close, they may find that they have little in common which causes the attraction to fade away and they choose to exit quickly.
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People that dream of getting rich overnight might resort to wooing an affluent partner to achieve this goal. When their little secret gets exposed, or they fear this outcome, people beat a hasty retreat. In some cases, they stick on and swindle some amount before leaving.
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Incompatibility is a genuine reason for people to quit romantic relationships. When two people find that their outlook towards life is opposite, they may choose to exit soon after professing their love.
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There are people that get busy checking out others either on their own or at a friend’s insistence. This, despite being in a committed relationship. When they find someone better, they leave.
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When people profess their love for each other, their emotions usually run high. They find that they cannot keep off each other, wanting to meet often etc. Texting, calling are other means of communication that tend to eat away time. When they find this to be affecting their professional lives, people choose to leave to maintain decorum.
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Just as soon as a declaration is made, people reveal their usual selves. Some of them maybe violent people that indulge in physical abuse. Unable to withstand this behavior, people may leave immediately. Of course, to be able to do this, one must think logically and take a practical decision.
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It has been proved in studies that excessive interactions such as too much texting, calls, meeting, cuddling, can take away the newness of a relationship all too soon. Predictable behavior tends to end the mystery, throwing the romance out of the window and causing people to leave.
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In the initial stages of a new relationship, the heart is tender and the mind strong. After professing love for each other, if the partners resort to talking rudely, ignoring, name calling and the like, love that has not yet blossomed fully, can die a premature death causing people to leave.
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If you have found a partner that loves you and vice-versa, congratulations are in order. But what happens when you no longer make the effort to the things that took you to get them? If one person is being made to take all the initiatives, planning dates, calling, texting and the like, be sure to expect them to walk away from you.
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Some people enter romantic relationships just to meet certain needs. These could vary between emotional, physical and spiritual needs. Asking to get physical immediately after knowing each other is one reason why people break up. One person may not feel comfortable enough to get into it and may walk off. Similarly, asking to be connected via texts, calls, video calls most of the time in a day, is not taken well by some people. Spiritual reasons too tend to drive people away from one another.
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When people in love tend to go too fast and bring up the question of a future too soon in a new relationship, some walk away in fear. It takes time to know someone well enough to want to seek a future with them.
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People that have just embarked on a romantic journey have a lot to learn and unlearn. When the relationship is new, control issues may creep in and disrupt the harmony in a relationship.
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Trust is an integral part of any relationship. When this is found lacking, the love fades away. So, now that you know what causes premature exits in romantic relationships, we are sure these reasons will help you avoid making mistakes so that you are able to build long-lasting love in relationships.
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