Love stories evoke warmth in the heart and hope in the mind. Everyone seeks a perfect love story that follows the usual trend of wooing/courtship and eventually, the wedding. But did you know that there are some love stories that do not seem warm, are distant and yet manage to form a bond? Yes, you read that right. There are people caught in unusual love stories that may appear cold from outside but can be warm and cozy otherwise.
Does Your Love Story Have These Ingredients?
If you’ve answered a yes to this question, take heart that all is not lost. Though this person may not like to remain in constant touch, the very fact that he makes an effort to help whenever you approach him tells a lot about what he may feel for you. Why would a man that does not feel anything bother to help you at all? It would be best for you to wait and watch as to how the story unfolds instead of calling it quits too soon.
If this is your situation right now, do not panic. The two blue ticks that go unanswered or the message delivery report that is not met with a response do not announce his intentions. He may be genuinely busy or may not be ready to discuss any potential relationship questions right now. You should get busy in your life and not wait for the responses as if your very life depended on it. Remember, people are attracted to confidence rather than mere declarations. Find something to do, learn a new skill, just do anything that can further your skillsets. It is when you wait endlessly that you get frustrated and anger seeps in. One must always have a full life other than the one envisaged with a partner.
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If the answer is yes, then you have got to believe that there must be some underlying reason to this behavior. It is quite possible that he is just trying to control his mind and does not feel comfortable with the intensity of his emotions at present. Maybe it is coming in the way of his work or other activities. If he is otherwise helpful and attentive when required, then do give him the space he wants, to work things out for himself. You would just have to wait and watch his moves before coming to any conclusion.
If you find this person to be loving one moment and distant in the next, hold onto your emotions and wait before judging him. It is likely that he is caught in some mess at work or at home. There could be a possibility of him trying to foresee an equation between the two of you with regards to your future. If a person is unsure of himself or of the other person, it is quite likely for him to oscillate between the two extremes. Should this happen, allow some time to go by before taking any decision. Matters of the heart need proper scrutiny and thinking.
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If this is your story right now, relax and read on. The fact that he compliments you is enough to portray that he observes you keenly. Now, what does that show? He has his eyes on you, of course. If you find him aloof even after he appreciates your looks, fret not. It is likely that he is trying to gauge what you think about his looks. Maybe he is unsure about your feelings for him. Not all have it in them to question and get responses. If you like him, hang in there.
Now, this can be a tough situation. If this person advises you but does not follow them, it can mean many things. You don’t have to take it negatively. Some people like to advise others when it is asked out of them, this does not entail them to follow suit. They would do things as per their issues and situation. Begin to view the larger picture in order to stay afloat.
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Just when you are thinking about the long gap in your communication with him, you receive a text that says “All well?” Instead of getting angry at him, why don’t you see his care in these two words. If he really wanted to break away, would he have stayed beyond the initial stages? In any case, relationships can be unpredictable, why add your bit to the mystery? Why not wait to see it unfold on its own?
Now, this can be really frustrating. A cold shoulder should not be taken literally until all other parameters have been tested. Most often a cold shoulder is a test to see how much the other person can withstand. This does not mean that you should let them walk over you. Your thoughts and feelings matter as well. Sometimes, the cold shoulder is just another boulder that has been placed to buy time. Should this be the case, get into yourself and find things to do that give you joy, love, and peace. Remember, your peace is of utmost importance.
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If you find that this person has changed all of a sudden and is always blaming you, study the pattern of such outbursts. If they occur without any trigger, know that this is not about you, rather about his own issues. Even if there is any trigger, look for reasons that could have caused this. Most often these are nothing but defense mechanisms to not give their power away. Love should never be about power, rather caring for one another and this takes time to develop. Patience is the key.
After constant arguments, people are tempted to bump such meanies off of their friends' lists. If you find this person hanging around even after constant bickering, know that there is a strong reason that works out in your favor. Why would anyone want to stay put otherwise?
What more proof do you want that this relationship is waiting on its wings? When things do not happen immediately, you should not write off the relationship. Each story is different as not all are alike. When you are on a train, don’t you wait till it stops before you get off? Similarly, you must try everything to make it work before you decide the next course of action. An enigma is not always a dilemma.
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If this is the case, do not worry. Sometimes, it is best to follow this rule as otherwise the intensity can go out of hand and create havoc in your personal and professional lives. It Is possible to foster a bond without being in touch via the different modes of communication. It can get frustrating if you refuse to see the underlying benefits. If you were to indulge in calls and texts very often, the urge would only grow with time and lead to chaos in the relationship. It is always good to go slow in the initial stages.
You have the power to rewrite your story
Every story is different as each character has unique roles to play. The love in a relationship does not bloom overnight, rather it develops over time after facing quite a few hurdles. That which withstands despite rough weather is a keeper. But did you know that it is possible to rewrite your story from the place you are in at the moment? Yes, no matter what, with a little patience and lots of care, you can have love in your life to share. So, do not fret if yours is an unusual love story, for it is in your hands to make it come alive and reach its destined glory. And even if things were to go wrong, take heart in the fact that this has only made you further strong. Unusual love stories can have that invisible bond that binds two people for long.
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