There are some mothers who appear to be lazy but there are always managing to accomplish things. Among the lazy moms is one Anna Bykova who has no qualms in admitting that she is proud f this title. But get this, Anna is a psychologist who has authored several bestsellers and feels that her style allows children to be more independent. Anna’s laziness isn’t about lazing on a sofa the whole day but instead she just doesn’t do everything for her children herself and makes them do it instead. It’s no problem letting a 7 year old wash the dishes knowing that you may have to wipe and mop the floors after that. Here are the tips in relation to the method.
This is a step by step process and requires your patience. Place the potty in the same area everyday and close to the child’s surroundings. Don’t force the child to sit on it. Each time the child uses the potty offer words of praise even if they just sit on it to please you.
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You can also place one of their cuddly toys and even read them a fairytale and how its characters like dry pants instead of soiled ones. Soon the child will get used to the routine and use the potty themselves.
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First of all hide all things from the child which they are not supposed to touch like scissors etc. Then show that child a new shiny object and entice them with doing something new which may be more exciting like Anna says she carries a bottle of bubbles, or even a balloon that can blown up or cheap small toys.
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When your child touches objects like scissors, one should be careful and ideally, they shouldn’t as it is a dangerous object. But if they are curious, let them touch them only in your presence so that you control how they touch the object. The thing is too many taboos can irritate children and that limits the scope of their development.
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One can try the approach of telling the child that you both will do it but later like “Of course, we’ll play, but let’s get some sleep first.” If it is feeding time and you need to stop the game, give the suggestion of feeding the toy first. If your child is in the process of building something, you can tell him “Leave your building set and let’s go eat.” Tell him that his building team needs their lunch break too.
To get the child to do what you want, always suggest an alternative like asking them if they would be willing to pick up their cars or soldiers first. But this tactic only works temporarily and sooner or later, the child may end up refusing both once they reach a certain age.
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To prevent a child throwing a tantrum, you can try shifting their attention to something else. Invent a calming routine like a nursery rhyme, game or a fairytale. A mom can gently blow on the tears of the child to dry it or you can give them magic water to calm them.
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When they are constantly throwing tantrums, ignore them especially if unsuccessful after trying all methods to calm them down. Leave them alone to cry a little or ignore it when they resort to screaming. However, never scold or lock them up in their room alone. Share your feeling with the child by saying things like “I think you just want to cry right now... When you’re done, we’ll do something fun.”
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Everyone needs food including a human so if you forget to feed your newborn you will be warned with loud screams. A child always knows best when they need to feed. For toddlers and growing children, don’t force or persuade them to eat their food because appetite is always stimulated with positive emotions.
Include your child in the cooking process and let them try or suggest different ingredients and choose products while shopping. This will stop all problems in eating. If you give your child more food than what is needed, ask yourself why would you do that? Are you playing out the stereotyped mother of the past or are you afraid your child will remain hungry. Children will eat when they feel hungry and forcing food on a child isn’t good parenting.
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When a child has no appetite, don’t give them snacks in-between. Avoid giving a child food with artificial tasters and flavoring because once a child gets used to this, healthy foods will never be tasty. Keep them more active and give them fewer sweets. Activity will positively impact y9our child’s appetite.
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Children usually have difficulty falling asleep once they develop the habit of crying themselves to sleep. Sleep becomes a type of punishment or they may regard sleep as something overtly importance a factor created by parents.
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Joint breathing. Place your hands on the child’s body and try to mimic their breathing. Then start breathing deeper, swing the child a bit and with slow deep breathing and flicking motions, the child may fall asleep faster.
Dull reading. When you read a book, insert phrases of relaxation and sleeping in the content for example “And then the bear said... I’ll sit on the stump... Eat my pie... Lie on the grass... Take a nap...” Read slowly and exhale deeply. Pause and make your breath smooth and gradual while slowing down the phase of your reading. The child will also start doing the same.
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Invent a symbol of calm sleep that can be a toy or some favorite object of your child which they can hug while sleeping. When you move to a new bed, do it together especially if the child is used to sleeping in the same bed as the parents. This helps the child get used to the new bed and will eventually get used to sleeping alone. To motivate your child to sleep improve the atmosphere of the room like attractive bed sheets, cute nightlight and a dream catcher.
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