We are surrounded by ample relationships and many of them are very close to us. Our emotions are guided by the emotions of our loved ones. And vice versa our mood affects the mood and wellbeing of people who love us. They are happy in our happiness, sad in our grief, stressed when we are in trouble, depressed if we hurt them and even start feeling low when we are sick.
Love has a strong hold over both our positive and negative emotions. So if we truly love our loved ones we should try to minimize the display of our problems to them for their well being and be happy for others. If we are strong and hopeful then people around us are at peace but if we breakdown then tension overpowers our loved ones. As Lydia M. Child puts, “An effort made for the happiness of others lifts us above ourselves”.
In all our relationships stress is likely to happen at some point. Most of this stress is temporary and manageable. But many of us pass the stress faced in one relationship to other relationships. This action causes a disturbance in others life. Rina had a fight with her best friend. Now she each day cribbed in front of her husband about it who would want to have some ‘me time’ with her.
Initially, he solaced her but later got pissed off. Rina also expected her other friends to severe relations with the friend with whom she fought. For her other friends both the ladies were dearer to them and choosing one over the other became difficult for them. Unless imperative some relationship issues can be managed by maintaining silence and not discussing them in length and breadth.
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Before dying Sarita’s grandmother expressed her last desire that no one will cry on her demise and maintain their daily routine without keeping any days of grief. She did not want anyone to be sad and accept dying as a natural process. Even while she was alive she did all that she could do to remain independent. But there are people who refuse to even move out of bed if there is a little problem in their body.
They constantly keep nagging and demanding assistance. Loved ones are always present to take care of us during sickness. But if the pain is manageable, asking your loved one to sacrifice their time and nurse is not fair. If you have a prolonged sickness then do not rely on one person as it can be exhausting for your caretaker instead build a support network.
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If you are comparing yourself with your affluent friends and cribbing about your financial crunch all the time to your husband or family members then you are making them feel inferior and worthless. Times are not the same always. One must happily learn to adjust in what they have. Instead of keeping a gloomy face all the time, blaming others, shouting, crying and not adjusting, one must try to create new sources of income.
Nobody invites poverty and as your loved one is trying to keep you happy you can reciprocate by staying happy.
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Seeing your friend or relative progress socially or professionally may bring in jealousy. And jealousy is the mother of all negative emotions. Negative emotions harm the holder first and then their loved ones. The loved ones are the sufferers for they are sandwiched between you and the one with whom you are jealous without any of their faults.
Kavita pressurized her husband to buy a luxurious flat for her close friend had bought one. Her husband was under stress all the time due to repayment of EMI’s every month. It is not difficult to be happy and congratulate someone on their progress.
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Like parents want their kids to be happy even kids want their parents to be happy. Children are the worst affected when parents are unhappy. Their innocent hearts only desire love and happiness. So instead of shouting at the kids when you are stressed or delving your frustrations on the little angles try to be a child with a child. For a child does not know to remain unhappy for a long time.
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