When you have been in a relationship for a really long time, you know so much about each other that even giving a compliment, comes its baggage of negativity. When you find something worthy of praise, say it simply and clearly and take care to never add a negative comment or a qualifier with that statement. You are trying to say something good to your partner, so why should there be a mention of something which might not sound pleasing to your partner. Do you know there has been a study in which John Gottman, a researcher who has studied about couples for 40 years, said that for every single negative message that we tend to give out to our partner, we need to give five positive messages to erase the bad feeling. Now, will that not be too much of a hard work for you to do at a later stage? So, why take the pains, when your single compliment can give you just gains! Oh, by the way, the example for this rule is right here: The Bad Message: I’m glad that finally you gave me a gift that I like for my birthday. The Good Message: I really loved your gift. Thank You Making a relationship work needs some amount of effort from your side for sure, and when some simple rules of communication can give a boost to your efforts, then where really is the harm. Nowhere, I say, because incorporating simple changes in your speech are much better than spending huge sums on counseling or in buying gifts. A few words spoken with love will go a long way in making your relationship last long.
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