18 Signs That Reveal The Psychology Behind True Love

By Kavita Panyam, 3 November 2017

The world is abuzz with thoughts on true love doing the rounds everywhere. True love is not about what you receive from others, rather it is about what you offer to others irrespective of everything else. Love is a feeling and not an attachment. Have you ever wondered as to how some people manage to stay in love despite being away from their partners? Why do they not need validations to support their feelings? We bring you sixteen signs that may indicate your love to be true.

1You Feel Unconditional Love for Them

If you find yourself carrying love in your heart even if your partner does not always reciprocate, know that your feelings are true. Unconditional love is not dependent upon the feelings of the other person. You wake up early in the morning to fix your partner's favorite breakfast. He gets ready, hops on to the table, gulps down the food and rushes out of the door straight to his workplace. You smile as you clear out the dishes as you are content that he ate the meal you so lovingly prepared. You do not wonder whether he tasted the food or about him leaving for work without acknowledging your efforts. His actions do not disturb your equilibrium as you operate from the zone of unconditional love.

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2You don’t react adversely and threaten to leave during challenging times

When two people get together, things are not hunky dory all the time. There would be bickering, anger and hurt. If you find yourself not reacting adversely to such situations, you don’t threaten to leave your partner, you are calm and composed, this could mean that your love for your partner is true. When nothing disturbs your peace, know that your feelings may be real.

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3You are ready to take each day as it comes

When you find yourself looking at each day with brand new eyes, without carrying any unpleasantness or challenges of the previous day, your love may be real. Your partner is busy and has little time for you and you use this time to further your skills, know that you have reached the stage where external situations do not take away your joy and peace.

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4You give without any expectations

Even in the most compatible relationships, giving is not complete without receiving. But there are people that give without expecting anything in return. If you feel this way, then your love could be real. You choose to give your time and care and may not receive the same from your partner every time. But when this does not disturb the love and peace in your heart, your love could be true.

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5You have a life other than your love life

People that are secure in their love, have a life other than their love life, finding fulfillment in all areas of their lives. When you are clingy and demanding, the love gets replaced with wants, causing frictions. A person that can keep happy in his/her own life, be it career wise or any other activity furthering his/her goal can give and receive love in a better manner. They don’t expect their partner to be the reason of their joy or sorrow. Such people give out better support and unconditional love.

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6You Accept Your Partners Views Without any Bias

When your partner expresses his views and you find that they are not in sync with yours, and yet you accept the differences without being judgmental and biased, your love can be true. Couples that judge each other close the doors to understanding and acceptance.

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7You Respect them

When you find that you do not lose respect for your partner despite his/her shortcomings, it can be true love that you feel for them. Respect comes from understanding a person for who he/she is. When you do this, unpleasant situations do not diminish your respect for them.

8You take their feedback in a positive way

When you enter a relationship, you take your opinions and ideas with you into it. Partners do advise each other on various aspects and some may be negative as well. When you take a negative feedback in a positive way, looking at the bigger picture, your love is true.

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9You don’t misconstrue your partner's silence

It is possible for a partner to go silent without communicating much at some point. If you understand this and attribute the silence to issues at work or even something personal and offer warmth and comfort by allowing them their space, your love is real.

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10You can be yourself in their presence

Relationships work better when partners reveal themselves to each other without worrying about feeling vulnerable in their presence. If you can go out with him without makeup and still feel good, you are secure in your love.

11You don’t feel inferior to them

In a relationship, both partners need to feel secure for it to work well. When you don’t feel the need to compete with them and do not feel inferior, your feelings are on the right track. Love cannot blossom when one feels inferior in the relationship.

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12You give them space

When you are secure in your love for someone, you don’t behave needy and clingy. So, if you find that giving them space to do their own thing does not make you feel bad about it, your love maybe real.

13You accept them as they are

Your partner may have been raised in a different background that may contradict your views from time to time. His habits might not be something you cherish. If you can still accept him the way he is without forcing him to change, your love is real.

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14You envisage a future with them

If you have begun to contemplate a future with them and are ready to take the plunge, your love is true. Love that crosses all hurdles is often the one that stays.

15You give them the freedom to choose

While people would love to have their partners do things their way, someone that loves another truly would never force them to do things against their wishes. True love is about setting them free to choose their path.

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16You wish them well in the event of a breakup

True love has its share of ordeals. Sometimes it goes through a breakup as well. A breakup often leaves one bitter and remorseful. People do not accept this easily and may try to hold onto the person for as much as they can. This is not healthy as love should never be forced on others. Even if their partners were to hang around for a while, if their mind was set, they would, in any case, leave sooner or later. If you have experienced a breakup and find it in your heart to forgive your partner and yourself, your love, in any case, be able to wish well for someone that has moved away from you, perhaps to someone else is a big thing. You should pat yourself on the back if your love passes this test.

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17You accept them back

A breakup can create a void in the heart of the person that has been left behind. It is certainly not an easy task to forgive and move on, but it is not impossible either. To the one that loved with no barriers, parting does not end the love in their heart. Love should be free-flowing and not just an attachment as that is based on needs. There are times when the partner that has walked out returns some day and you find that you have no hurt and anger in your heart. If you accept them back with no questions asked, that is true love. This is not to be confused with desperation or getting even with them. True love demands no explanations, it just loves.

18You bury the past and start afresh

So, you accept them back and get ready for the new innings. What is challenging is, to not throw the past in his/her face each time an altercation breaks out. While some people forgive, they may find it hard to forget about the hurt. In such cases the hurt looms large in their mind all the time, waiting for an opportunity to burst out.

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True love is not that which expects, rather that which respects. It is unconditional in nature, not letting anything come in its way. It remains the same whether you get together with that person or not. The beauty of true love is such that, even separation does not change your feelings. True love is all about never questioning your love for someone. It is a feeling that is here to stay.


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