There are people who feel lonely, and then there are people who prefer to be alone. And yes, they do not always feel depressed because of being alone; as that is a state which they happily prefer to be in. Although, the world calls them loners, thinking that they do not have the capability to mingle with people, but the truth is that they actually keep a close circle of genuine friends and love their own company. They are better able to understand not just themselves, but others as well and because of this reason, the relationships that they maintain are really special to them.
If you too enjoy your company, then you will certainly identify with these personality traits. And just in case you are thinking that being a loner is a bad thing, then let me assure you, it is not; because I too am like this. And each of the points that I am going to discuss below, are actually what I truly identify too. So, let’s get to know ourselves a little more because that is what we love doing, right?
They have firm boundaries around themselves, and believe that other people too, have those; so they respect everyone’s life as it is. If you tend to cross those boundaries, they will tell you. They respect the personal space of everyone around them and expect others to do the same for them.
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What do you think loners mostly do in the alone time? Well, for a start they look into themselves and for this reason, the level of self-awareness in these individuals is much higher than other people. They are able to handle their emotions and know how to face difficult situations by looking at the bright side.
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As they are very good in understanding other people, they do realize that no one is perfect. Everyone has flaws and even the ways with which they improve those flaws. Loners understand this aspect, and thus, they simply go with the flow of life rather than making a fuss about everything. In fact, they are honest about their own flaws as well and are always ready to do whatever it takes to address those flaws.
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Now, because they don’t have a tendency to always seek attention from a lot of people, they are very happy in being with the close friends that they have carefully chosen, for themselves. And for these friends, they are the epitome of loyalty.
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A person who has learned to be happy in his own company has been able to do that because he got to face some difficulties in life. All those trials and tribulations made him introspect and know more about himself. So, when later in life they come face-to-face with difficult circumstances, they don’t lose their cool and try to look for practical solutions.
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The one thing that is of extreme importance to them; is TIME! Not just their own time, but others’ as well. They have understood that if they do not respect time, then success will not come to them and for this reason, they take care to not waste anyone’s time on their watch!
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Loners are able to empathize with others by feeling their pain. Although, being able to feel someone’s sorrow may seem like a curse, but loners know how to deal with such a situation. They have the ability to understand the details of any problem and then give practical solutions rather than just beating around the bush. Knowing about oneself is something that not everybody is able to do, especially if they are always surrounded by people. We are not saying that you cut all contacts with the world, all we are trying to tell you is that take time to understand about yourself as well, and then you will know that loving to be in one’s own company is not the same as being a lonely person. In fact, your happiness is then in your own hands and you need not depend on others to feel important in life. How’s that for some alone time?!
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