Suddenly girls-night-outs are banned stating silly excuses with time limitations or needing to be picked up. He always needs to keep a tab on you and who you are hanging out with. He insists on a photograph to show who you could be with as well. In reality, there is no love involved here, it’s just power play and keeping you in a leash like a pet dog, that will keep getting shorter and tighter.
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Among the emotional abuse signs, when you finally start confronting him, they get threatened and realize they have overstepped the border. So how to get things back to normal? Be ready for grand gestures, like a romantic dinner, a surprise weekend trip which you always wanted, a flurry of surprise gifts and flowers, enough to nauseate the neighbors. The trick here is that the to divert your mind from the real festering relationship problems, with an expectation of buying more time when you would be little less confrontational about the real issues in the relationship.
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One of the most famous signs of emotional abuse and tactics. “Gas-lighting” is an English term implying indirect mental manipulations opted as a more cowardly strategy rather than confronting the problems directly like a man. The prime tool here is lying and deceit. Your partner contradicts most of the claims he made earlier, about his last job, his previous relations. They deny with such conviction that you really start doubting yourself. This is the most disturbing form of mental manipulation which makes you question your own emotional stability.
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The most heartless thing a partner can do to you is to break your confidence and belittle your accomplishments. You will find them taking a sadistic pleasure in ruining your self congratulatory mood over a good day at work. He would try anything to demoralize you by convincing that your victory is not a big deal and there are a 1000 ways it can go downhill, or simply he would ignore your excitement by engaging in an unrelated argument which would break your happy bubble instantly. This triggers the attitude of never sharing your achievements, ideas or success, because they would always knock you down without any display of positivity.
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