Wives of British lords were only conferred the title of “ladies” in the Middle Ages. But, nowadays, the term “lady” has a broader meaning which categorizes women as those who can behave decently while meeting an old friend and even among elite society. She can turn heads in her direction when she passes and can draw out compliments from the mouths of even the most avid skeptics and cynics.
True ladies always have little secrets that help them always stay on top and these women always command and give respect within reason. As for how you can tell apart a true lady, here are 15 details that only a real lady will display in her behavior and manners.
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A woman of her standing will never be seen displaying any signs of incontinence in emotions and thoughts. For example, she won’t be fidgeting around like touching the tablecloth, fiddling with a lock of her hair, or shaking her leg. Such behavioral markers only show that a person literally can’t remain composed or control themselves. It’s important that she shows everyone including herself that she is the epitome of dignity, patience, and calmness.
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A lady will have all the knowledge regarding proper greeting etiquette such as curtseying or bowing when appropriate. While it is the younger generation that should greet the older one first when it comes to life outside work, but within the frames of the work hierarchy, it is the person with a higher position who salutes their subordinates first, regardless of their age.
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A true lady will know her worth and never shy away from accepting words of praise and compliments. She will always reply with a short “thank you and express her gratitude with a polite smile. She won’t refute the praise and start a feigned dispute as she knows all too well that it could embarrass the person giving the compliment.
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This is one rule a lady will definitely never break. She will never let herself have a bad posture when out in public and not even when she’s alone. She will always pay close attention to maintaining a straight back and shoulders in any situation. This upright posture also helps in keeping the spine and organs healthy.
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Any true lady will know the proper posture for sitting in a chair. So, when she sits in a chair or even an armchair, she will place her hands one over the other or simply keep them locked. She doesn’t slouch or show any signs of having a bad sitting posture.
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Whether it is an adult, relative, child, acquaintance, your boss, or even a waiter, you should always look them in the eye while speaking. This is one of the main rules of a conversation and it is unacceptable to look away or at something else during a conversation. A lady will obviously know this which is why she will look straight into your eyes to show you that she is focused on your conversation. This way she makes sure that she isn’t distracted by other things and doesn’t allow disrespect to the person she is talking to.
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It’s no surprise that a lady knows what things should be done and when they should be done. For instance, applying perfume on the skin is considered a personal process that should be done when you’re alone. Needless, to say she knows this fact very, but she also knows that there is a trick to apply perfume. It needs to be applied on 2 spots where the vessels are located close to the skin which is inches below the earlobes.
She does everything in moderation as she remembers to keep the main “rule of a stretched arm”. This rule dictates that the aroma of the perfume shouldn’t exceed the distance of your stretched arm.
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High society women know how to enhance their natural beauty with makeup. As such, they don’t go drawing a new face over the old one like other women do with makeup. According to Princess Diana’s makeup artist, it would be best to pay close attention to the tone of the skin and stick to more natural shades.
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A true lady steers clear of revealing or even mentioning every single detail about her life such as the names of people she met, or the places she has been to. If she was at an Entrée café with her friend named Rachel, then she will only tell others that she dropped into a café for lunch with a friend. Other undesirable topics include politics, religion, and health.
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This is where you can distinguish a lady from other women as she can control her emotions. There won’t ever be eyes that are rounded by surprise on her face nor will you see any grimaces of anger and hatred on her face. She won’t even show you a grin from one ear to the other.
Tampering down the level of her emotions is something that she always keeps in mind. When she might be extremely resentful, she will frown slightly. If she happens to be super surprised she will raise her brows and her eyes will reveal her feelings. In any case she will always be calm and collected with precise and moderate facial expressions and gestures.
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Trying to invade her personal and physical boundaries is not only impossible but it surely will not go unnoticed. These personal boundaries are her sanctuary and should not be taken lightly. She isn’t going to tolerate any rudeness towards her from anyone.
She also knows how to politely show an overly free-willed person trying to initiate physical contact with her by putting their hand over her shoulder or touching her hair that they can’t do so without her permission. But, she won’t resort to arguments or get into a conflict. Just a couple of appropriate phrases spoken in a calm tone are enough to make any person who slighted her feel that they have crossed the line.
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A real lady knows the formalities required in fine dining. As such, she always takes a napkin from a dining table and places it on her lap as how it should be placed before eating. She also knows that it has to be folded in half during lunch and should be unfolded during dinner.
While it isn’t exactly forbidden to put your elbows on the table, she knows exactly when it is alright to put them on the table. She keeps in mind that this should be done either before the meal or in breaks between the dishes.
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If a lady is traveling by plane and someone’s inappropriate behavior is causing her and other passengers inconvenience onboard, she doesn’t hesitate to inform the flight attendants to do something about the situation. Since there always is a protocol for these kinds of situations, those in charge have to follow it because they are responsible for maintaining order, so it is best to communicate through them.
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When she has to go shopping, she removes her lipstick completely and wears only minimal makeup. This is actually a brilliant way of avoiding staining the clothes she tries on while she is out shopping.
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While visiting a new country, a lady always adorns a neutral style of clothes. She makes sure that her collarbones, elbows, and knees are all covered. She is mindful of the national way of dressing to understand what is acceptable in a particular country. Also, she is mindful of local culture and the topics for conversation.